Monday, May 10, 2010

Enough with the Assumptions

After five years of homeschooling you'd think I'd be over feeling bitter when people I don't know make assumptions about me. And I have to say that most days I am over it. But not every day. No, sometimes I get hit one too many times in a row. It happened today at a homeschooling get together. I talked to several different mothers, and five of them - FIVE - made sweeping generalizations that I found incredibly offensive, and they were speaking as if including me on "their side." Ugh. UGH. The most frustrating part is that I fear I do not handle these situations in the best way. I don't have some wonderfully smart remark ready; I don't tactfully, respectfully find a way to remedy the situation; I don't even act offended and defend my position. No. I am at a loss. Utterly confounded.

I don't even want a quick comeback, when I really think about it. I'd just prefer people not make assumptions about me. Though I'm guilty of it as well - apparently I foolishly assume people know enough not to make assumptions. Well, today was clearly a wake-up call on that front. And if I'm honest, I have to admit a small part of me wonders what it is about me that screams "assume I'm just like you!"

Oh well - I guess this means I've reached my "annoying conversations" quota for the month. Looking on the bright side, it's still relatively early in the month!


  1. Ah, assumptions. What is that phrase about "assume"? You (people) should never assume anything, because it makes an ass out of u and me? LOL

    Well, hopefully you won't have to deal with that again anytime soon!

  2. I've seen a few people talking about wanting a t-shirt which clearly marks the wearer as a secular homeschooler . . . there are a few . . . but maybe we need secular homeschool to have a t-shirt contest and a shop on cafe press? (of course, there I go, making sweeping assumptions of what you are and what the assumptions where)

  3. mm, this is probably why i've never embraced the hs'ing group! ;^)